Marital problems are on the increase in Chennai and other places in Tamil Nadu

According to a news paper report published several years ago in Chennai, men are increasingly voicing their marital distress with the Association for Protection of Men receiving 5,000 complaints this year, a stark contrast to the 2,000 complaints from Mumbai. These grievances range from ego clashes and physical abuse to sexual dissatisfaction and conflicts over living arrangements.

Ego clashes are a significant source of strife, with 30% of men reporting constant arguments stemming from their wives' unwillingness to compromise. Additionally, 20% of complaints involve wives initiating fights over living in joint families, exacerbating domestic tensions. Physical abuse is alarmingly prevalent, with 500 men reporting being beaten by their wives. Sexual dissatisfaction is another critical issue, with 10% of men citing dissatisfaction in bed and extramarital relationships as major concerns.

The impact of these marital issues is profound, with sociologists noting an increase in men driven to despair and contemplating suicide due to the combined pressures of economic and marital stress. In Indian society, where men are often discouraged from showing vulnerability, many silently endure verbal and emotional abuse, further compounding their mental health struggles.

As a result of these severe conditions, 400 men in Chennai have opted for divorce, seeking to escape the relentless marital strife. This situation underscores the urgent need for societal changes that allow men to express their vulnerabilities and seek support without stigma. The high volume of complaints from Chennai men highlights a critical issue that requires immediate attention to improve the well-being and mental health of men in distressed marriage.

The marital problems is more visible than in the  past because of countless  liquor shops even in small towns. Men including teenagers have become habitual drunks, creating problems at home. The TN government so far has not taken any step  to reduce the TASMAC shops to the minimum. The crux of the issue is the local Netas run the distilleries across the state and making a bundle out of the enormous sale of liquor. The mark up is very high.  Netas are more interested in making fast bucks than in the health and welfare of the countless families and their future generation.